There is no room for munchies in the “I’m getting married in 4 months” diet.
Ok, so these two middle aged men who play racquetball just came sauntering up to the desk, which is near the bathrooms.
One of them (we’ll call him Douchley) was making fun of the other (we’ll call him Nicely) because Nicely was going to use the women’s bathroom, because there are only two bathrooms and one was occupied.
There is literally nothing different about these bathrooms on the inside. The only thing that distinguishes them from each other is the signs denoting gender on the outside. They are single-room unisex bathrooms for all intents and purposes.
So anyway Douchley was first calling this guy a fag and then he turns to me and says, “Hey, make fun of him when he comes out of the ladies room.”
And I said, “Why? Because he’s more secure in his sexuality and masculinity than you?” And then Douchley kind of chuckled and looked red in the face.
And then Nicely came out of the bathroom and was looking in his bag for his keys and Douchley says, “What’s the matter? Can’t find you TAMPON? You’re such a girl.”
And I looked at him with the steeliest glare I could muster and said, “Do you have a problem with women?”
And the dude just laughed and walked out and Nicely looked kind of ashamed and told me to have a good night and left behind Douchley.
I’m just so stunned that full grown adult men still act like this sometimes. Like honestly, would he go up to a person of color and make a crass race joke? Probably not. But he definitely thinks it’s okay to make demeaning, misogynistic jokes about women in front of me and just in general.
Why be all nice and friendly to my face and then ask my manager to send me an e-mail regarding something you weren’t happy with (which wasn’t even my fault!)?
Why wouldn’t you just ask me about it when we talked face-to-face this morning? That would have been easier, because then I could have explained to you that it wasn’t my fault or responsibility!
I just need to stop engaging with these idiots.
I always go into these exchanges thinking, I’m sure this person is a decent human being who has just been misguided by rape culture. I’ll just respectfully explain to him my perspective and back it up with some well-cited statistics and I’m sure he’ll see the error of his ways.
And every time the asshole is just like, “HERP DERP. YOU DON’T HAVE A SENSE OF HUMOR. I FEEL BAD FOR YOU.”